Focus on yourself again, let her come to you and go slow here. Now we havent talked in three days and I know that doesnt seem so long but to me it is, especially because I worry there is a chance we might get seperated after high school. I dont want to tell her that my marriage is on the rocks already even before i met her. Let her reach out to you but in the meantime work on yourself and learn how to love yourself and not take other peoples inability to show up personally. I told her if she wanted be alone, or she wanted me to walk away. We will be close soon so Im hoping to see her ASAP. Hi Alex, my family and I felt they just didnt try hard enough. She is in stressed at work feels like she is the one doing everything in the relationship. Ive known her for about two and half months and weve havent been Abel to stay away from each other for more than two days. Things moved so fast in the beginning weeks that we were spending just about every waking moment together. Sorry to hear that youre going through this. You should let her She responded with Ill let you know when Im ready. I find it interesting that she replied the second time I reached out. Apollonia. What are your thoughts? With that said Im not sure if she still feels the same, becuase she hasnt been as romantically affectionate, shown by the lack of cuddling and sex. Yesterday morning I saw she had a story on instagram (around the time she didnt text me back) at a candle lit restaurant with a drink across from some guy with a beard and tattoos and I know she likes both those things. Apollonia. Out of nowhere. I listen and doing that but not sure if Im doing the right thing? My girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 months and asked me yesterday to give her space (for a week) basically because she wants a weekend to herself, is feeling overwhelmed, and is tired mainly because i think its because of her work schedule. I have a question me and my wife been together for 15 years Married for 6 years I caught her having a emotional affair with a ex that is locked up for 40 years and I put her out after I put her out there was no contact for a few days because she was calling me and I was ignoring her so she came knocking on our door I let her in and we was talking and she said she was trying to fix the relationship we going on our third week now she havent came back home but she calls 6 to 7 times every day and we have a 16 month daughter she said she was doing what she was doing because she felt I was treating her bed and she said she wanted me to feel her pain and I dont understand where she coming from with this I know we had a problem because when my daughter was born I am a truck driver and I went to go sleep in the other room and we agreed today and I will come in on the weekends but I continue to stay in the other room and I Houma another bargain and she got mad with me NFL does do I was lying to her and I didnt want to come in a room with her and this one on a half until Ive caught her on the phone talking to the guy from jail so now she act like she not in no Harry to cone back home talking about she dont feel comfortable But since this happened she have been over to stay the night three times has sex with her once so how you dont feel comfortable if you to been over and slept with me in the bed with nothing in that time and now I am to the point where I am tired of playing this game I told her the other day either she come back home and we go to marriage counseling and try to fix this or were not because when I told it is its like she never responded she danced around what I was saying and then we supposed to go out this week so I dont understand what she doing at this point and right now I just feel like i am ready to cut off all contact and deal with her mother far as my daughter just dont understand her angle right now if you dont want to be married why keep calling 5 to 7 times a day checking up on me and get mad if I dont answer when she call, Hey Devonta. I really believe you will highly benefit from a coaching session before you meet with her. I ended up deciding to give her space, but I made the mistake of going to her place a few days later, and we became frustrated with one another as she wouldnt tell me what the other things are that were bothering her in her life. Just not a nice place, food, not much interaction with the families etc. But I dont want to lose her neither. As humans sometimes when we are feeling a little overwhelmed we can lash out and just need some time to gather ourselves and it seems, to me at least, like that could be whats going on. Lets book a coaching session so We can go more in-depth with this. I didnt plead for her to stay I textd her once or twice after breakup but I am giving her space now.. What would you advice me? Until then, Im gonna be happy, productive and enjoy this life. When her mom asked if she was not feeling well as in depressed..well thats when I think she got the idea to do this. I would suggest focusing on you and how your life is and what areas you can improve on for balance. What you will find here is dating, relationship, and life advice from your host along with some amazing interviews with some pretty amazing experts! Days go by and I decide to ask her out and she said yes. This time has allowed me to reflect on my actions and where I went wrong, I just want a second chance, thats all. We went out and everything was great. But I find myself having hard time with as well but trying not to let that show around her. As soon as i left i realized that i messed up i should have left the first time she told me and that she didnt want to be touched and i still didnt follow with what she asked from me. Now with this pandemic going on I guess I have no choice but to give her space. Hi Appolonia, Me and my girlfriend of 1 month have been very very healthy in my opinion, we always communicate through anything and everything. Shes Always out with Her Girlfriends She might not enjoy her time with you as much and might always prefer to spend time with her girlfriends. I was ok with it. This means theres a reason she got into that marriage to begin with 5 or 6 months isnt enough time to really heal from it it s going to take time. Hello Neil, thank you for your support and for reading When she says she needs space, heres what to do! Im sorry to hear youve been struggling. We were about to take our first trip within the following weeks and a month prior talked about engagement and moving in, key information is that we hadnt had sex because she wasnt ready at the time and still a virgin. What did I do, no reply? Im excited to chat with you and get you results! When I was in jail I gave the option that its ok to leave me because Im no good while in jail. I would need more information but give this girl space. Over the weekend she was supposed to join me for a movie and then the next day join me and my friends for my birthday celebration. Completely not what me or my family was expecting. I have tried to talk to her but she tell me she needs some space or rather sometimes to think over what she has gotten her life into. A week later, i was invited to her house by her cousin (my friend) so we can drop off a b-day gift for her sister. Thank you for reading my blog. Things will be the way they are meant to be. Things are not looking good for us at the moment but I hope the future might be more positive. should I just move on and accept that I lost her? Hey Tj, At first it was her messaging me and telling me she didnt want to get back with my ex due to how she treated me, then she didnt want me to get hurt and then making statements like she didnt want to meet her or allow her to her home. and tried to change her mind, but still not effective. Will she come back? Its been a week of no contact since she said she needed space. Not sure how to handle this. At first she pretty much said we are done and over but needs space but head over heels in love. She did ask me to plan the trip to meet her family, but she would let me know few days before the trip if she wants me to come meet them. How do I go about this right? 2. Do not call them. Best, She also asked me if I would be friends were her so I can see the dog because recently we just got a dog. She would say, I dont want and I think so but I need my space right now. Sorry for prolonging the question, thank you for taking your time out to read this question and i look forward to hear from you, thanks. I dont know. I do think that I can help you but we need more information. This happened last saturday. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog When She Says She Needs Space, Heres What to do! You have already done the needy jealous part which will push her away and in order to not push her away any more then I would suggest for you to not contact her unless she contacts you. Thanks, Hello OG, I would have to get more information on your current situation in order to give you exact advice. Thank you for reading When she says she needs space, heres what to do. It feels like she tries to hint or expects me to read her mind which is hard. If this woman is pushing you away because shes going through something and she doesnt want you around, then you need to reanalyze the relationship. She makes me feel bad about being a mom. Thank you for sharing your story, It seems like there is a big sense of control here. What can I do please help, am afraid that she will leave me, or she is losing feelings for me, or if I gave her space she will get a chance to forger about me, because she even changed how she save me in her phone. I have reliased that I should give her the break she is asking and focus on myself. -Apollonia. Do I continue going with the no contact rule? She made an outburst that she needs space/a break. You can move on. So when we met up on Saturday she mentioned that she does not know what she wants but that she still loves and cares about me which was followed by a hug and a kiss for a few seconds. A week on and she says she cant be back in this relationship at the moment and she needs time and space to work herself out. We argue all the time. I also see focusing on ourselves is key in both. We ran into each other once and she was very happy to see me. I understand that you care about her and you love her but its also important to put yourself first and not be at every waking call that she says to come you come. Ive been with this girl for a little over a month, and things seemed to be fine and dandy. We still talked but not as much. My girl and I are not from the same country and we have been apart for three months now and before we had not known each other for that long. But im still with my wife who cheats on me. Hi Hope this helps! Best, Hello I have recently starting to see my ex again who became overwhelmed with lock down and convinced herself I didnt love her. Shes very successful in her career and travels the world. Let her text us, let her call us, allow her to initiate contact with us. Apollonia. But i want to know just give me a clue so i know what i need to worry. Needless to say we didnt have sex there as her daughter slept with us. We have been on trips, going for walks, and doing couple things. I got out, we went for a week Stay-cation with the kids to Great wolf lodge which was a great time and she paid for everything even food but it was ok with her, pretty much we she was all about me and talked on the phone and texted even when she went to visit her family to Kansas we facetime on the phone every day and every night with the kids as well. Please let me know what options I should take. Ive had probably 10 use that all were Sam some gave space some I tried slowly always was looking for greener grass. Hi Chris! Thank you for contacting us, Hi Dyl, Little to no affection she used to call me babe/baby/hunny constantly and not anymore then on FaceTime a few days later I was trying to make sure our plans were still on for the next day and the rest of the week to which she said half jokingly idk Im not sure I may be tired after work. I would really back up. Apollonia. Shes emotionally very strong where i am very emotional. Then she had got a job in London and she moved there for work. We both enjoyed it as we were together all night until the morning the next day. Hey, Please dont say Im to young to worry about things like this because I really do love her, deeply. Also, a weird consolation, she said talk to you later instead of bye when she hung up the phone, and thats way more comforting than I expected it to be. Because its happening to me right now. Here is the link https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching-2/ Some people fail and some people can come up on top. together 8 months. Just head to this link to review the product: https://www.apolloniaponti.co/she-needs-space, My team and I also offer one on one coaching, so if you would like for me to give you advice on your specific situation just head to this link and we will deep dive into your specific situation: https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/, I look forward to working with you and helping you. Im so sorry that happened. For the first week we were still flirting but over time she became more distant. I have reflected on that now and Ive been going to psychiatric therapy. My biggest regret was not focusing on myself during some of the relationship or staying busy so we were constantly texting and I was too available making her lose attraction for me. I asked her if she was still talking to this guy and she said she had pulled back since we were talking more and that theyre were still friends. I believe focusing on what makes you thrive, doing new things, getting involved in something that makes you happy and takes some of your time will help her define how she feels about you. Hey Apollonia, I have a question could use your insight and your viewpoint on a situation im currently dealing with. Apollonia. for almost about two years now.. but we had ups and down and I have been always be there for her when she fills down.. and we get back in track trouble after trouble, and many time when she is troubled , she ask me she needs space but I usually insists, until she start saying am a bad person and she needs fresh air from this relationship and see how things will be cause she doesnt have any feeling for our affair. It broke my heart and I admit I got upset. Now is the time to let go, sit back and discover the man that you can be so you can show up differently as time goes on. Hey, i have known this girl for a year now and she doesnt label it as love but we subconsciously acknowledge how close we are to each other, we are always texting and video calling and we tell each other we miss each other efc, however a few months we fell out and she told me she is leaving me for good, i will admit i can be horribly needy but Im good at suppressing it, but when she said shes leaving i unleashed my neediness and she left, but after some days she came back and we got good again, this time i started being less available and I deliberately resisted complimenting her and being overly available and i saw that it made her appreciate my presence more and she kind of seemed to fish for compliments and even ask if i missed her etc, everything was going fine with her and we met last week and had a good time but a day or two later she was hit with stress due to family and personal issues and she got suicidal also, and she told me she needs me to go forever and doesnt want anything to do with me etc, i shall admit i became slightly needy again and sort of begged her to stay, so we came to an agreement that we shall not talk for a week because she needed alone time, but I unfortunately messaged her again and that sparked her anger and she again said to me i need to go away forever and I dont bring her happiness, all i do is stress her out, which isnt true and i took it from what she said that her emotions are clouded by extreme anxiety, however because i kind of begged her to stay, she swore at me but stayed and I havent messaged her since then, she says she wants to leave but i see that she still sends me blank photos on snapchat, I dont know why she does that? I would give her the space and keep reminding yourself that you are enough, youre doing the work and youre not the same person you were. Over the past 2 or 3 months she has been very hot and cold towards me, Some days she will feel totally in-love with me and other days she will feel nothing towards me (We have spoken about it together). Hey Adam. Apollonia. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/ Im gonna try your advice but I have a question for you. Thank you for your comment and I am sorry that youre going through this as I know it can be difficult. She sat in the car with me and began crying saying she hates her job and where she lives and her car is damaged and stuff I told her to not worry about the small things and just stay focused on her self and be happy with everything she has in life. She immediately replied but telling me what she was going to do throughout her day and then said the following: Anyways okay Why did she say it like that with the dots at the end? Ive had a few great relationships but this has been the greatest. Ive always been the nice guy , I acted weak, on situations in which I should have been strong, and it seems she have lost her attraction to me. depression meds . Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! I thanked her and said can we be candid and said what do you want to do. Truth be told i am in denial of not being in a relationship. It just depends on why the space was needed in the first place. She appeared very happy to see me and said I looked great. Spend some time with yourself and do some self reflecting. Ill explain why and what happened. Im also curious did it work out after taking Appolnias advice or the relationships ended. When she dropped me to the airport she gave me a few kisses, told me she loved me and I said 2020 is going to be our year she said we will see. Best, If shes already told you why she wants to step back, then you can skip this step. Shes always putting on drama so I always have to go apologize to her just to make her feel better. Error message | View complete answer on https://beyondages.com Does giving a girl time and space work? Do I just wait for the weekend? Hello Patrick, Second, give her the time and space shes asking for. You can possibly save the relationship by focusing on getting back to a healthy mindset. She is my classmate and now the exams are over. Then in the evening I texted her I was giving her the space she needed and for her to let me know when she wanted to see me again. Then I cleared my head a bit and told her that was selfish of me, and I was gonna give her the respect/trust she deserves and to call when shes ready to talk. Had a relationship of 5 years. Thank you for taking the time to read When She Says She Needs Space. If a Im just trying to work on myself and get back on the right track, but Im afraid of drifting further apart while I respect her space. My girl friend and I were so happy together we loved each other and were there for each other. I blew up and accused her of stepping out on me. I love her. Heres where you could go to connect with one of our amazing coaches. Thought it was a huge joke. Do you need guidance to get her wanting you again and attracting her back into your life? Im not convinced its going anywhere though which is tough because I care about her a lot. Ive been overwhelmed by my job and college, and one night she really needed me and I wasnt there for her because I told her I wouldve probably been no help. And we instantly had amazing chemistry and a connection that I cant really explain in words Of course i cried and everything and feel very hurt. Hi I enjoyed the article but as always you think your situation is different, so here goes Im a dad of 2, 7 years divorced. You are your own pedestal so you deserve to be admired and treated well as well. I told her we can work this out. I dont think her feelings towards me would have changed, and it really is just like she said that new feelings arent whats needed for her right now. I simply said if she changed her mind, to let me know cause i still want to go out. Deep breaths. Team Apollonia, Women dont know what they want. Idk why she hasnt messaged me She wanted space and Ive given it to her. I definitely dont think this is the end. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/, i kept trying to call and in trust i called her frm another numberand said my name she hung up! That doesnt mean that you try and prove that youre the right one for her if someones not ready for a relationship, theyre not ready for a relationship that has nothing to do with you but trying to prove yourself or get them to validate you or make you feel better about the situation is only going to push someone away. Relationships are not Hollywood stories that make us think every one of them is how they describe it in the movie THE NOTEBOOK and we are supposed to find someone to complete us, It takes work, a lot of understanding, and unconditional love, the art of balancing life while we have so many responsibilities and people that depend on us. We also had a fun filled summer. I have not dug deeper because I am trying to respect her wish for her alone time, but I am beginning to feel a bit emotionally abandoned. I started dating my girlfriend 7 weeks ago. Best, Please help, I was in a 6 year relationship with someone and I ended it. My girl had feelings for someone else and when I found out she begged me to stay. This is something to pay attention to as the relationship progresses. I am a full time student who studies alot and works 2 days a week. Hi Everton! I say can we talk this out and shes says i just want to be alone. I was in a relationship for 7 yes and we had 2 kids together. So I claim them as mine. At some point of time, she would feel rather conflicted with her thoughts and apologise me for hurting me and making me insecure. How long should the space be ? Im in a long distance relationship. Join: 5 days ago Our relationship is not a dating one, but more like a married couple, we have been living together for a long time and have children together. We spent a lovely time together and went to travel 5-6 countries together. It almost felt like a break up even though we werent officially together, Ive been so upset lately cause she says she wants me and wants a relationship with me but not right now. Best, Not anyone elses. In my head I know Im doing the right thing no matter how long this takes. Hi Ani, I would always check in on her classes and and schooling and grades and gave positive input and talked to her on how she can reach her goal on nursing school and that whichever route she will take whether its school or work, I will always support her decision.
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